communication, because these qualities form the basis of a
long lasting married life.
While women may share everything with their husband,
they tend to unconsciously keep some secrets to themselves.
Here are eight secrets wives should never keep from their
husbands:
1. Helping with house chores: Are you feeling angry and
tired that you end up doing all the house chores
yourself? Tell him frankly that you would appreciate
if he helped you finish a chore or two because it's
exhausting to do it by yourself. Let him know that it
leaves you very little time for yourself and that you
can give him more time in bed if he helps out.
2. Working late: If you've been missing your spouse
because he's away working late, be honest and tell him
that instead of holding a grudge against him. Ask if he
can take a few assignments off his list on some nights or
reschedule things to spend more time with you.
3. Mother-in-law issues: Your relationship with your
mother-in-law or the lack of it could be a sensitive
matter. While you don't want to be all chummy with
her, neither does your husband expect that; but he does
wish the both of you would share a cordial relationship
and at least get along. If you don't know the right
way to go about it, there's no harm in asking him to
help you break the ice. Maybe he can start a
conversation when she is around and mention a
common interest you share?
4. Having children: Be very clear on when you want to
have kids or whether to have them at all right at the
beginning of the marriage. You may not be ready to be
a mother as yet, but he may be eager to have a baby.
Talk to him and tell him why you want to wait before
planning for one. Is it your career, countless
responsibilities after a baby comes or is it money issues
you want to sort out first? He may just be able to
make things easy with you.
5. Female best friend: Almost every man has a female
best friend from whom he probably got advice on
women from. Also, a lot of wives tend to get jealous
of how comfortable their husbands are with their
female bestie. If you have any issues with her, or you
think she may be crossing the line by calling him every
day and dropping by for a visit without prior notice,
tell him how you feel. If he tells you there's nothing to
worry about, relax. But if it's really a bother, he may
see it himself and make a few rules.
6. Career sabbatical: A career sabbatical is an important
life-changing decision. Although you may need time to
put things into perspective and follow your passion, he
may not want you to give up the job that helps you pay
some bills. Have a talk with your husband and maybe
go for freelancing or working from home if you can and
see how things work out. But then if a sabbatical is
what you really need, you may have to put your foot
down.
7. Sex: Whatever the reason maybe, you should always
tell your spouse why you are not in the mood for sex.
Whether it his unshaven beard, a pot belly or it may
just be the something he does in bed. If you tell him
what the matter is, he'll set it right in any way he can.
8. Family budget: You think you spend too much eating
out or that you could save a lot by renting DVDs
instead of going to the cinemas every time? Or do you
want to get something for the home that would mean
cutting down some other expenses temporarily? Just
tell your husband. Also, don't go ahead and do it
yourself. It will surely create a problem between the
two of you. If you like to share an equal partnership,
tell him about your plans. He may have better ideas to
manage finances and save more.
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